….remember when I said I thought I was finished with all the
“Dad’s dead” calls? Well as it often
happens, I was wrong. J Yesterday I got a letter from Travelers
letting me know that the electronic payment for his homeowners insurance had
been declined. Oh crap!
Talked to a very nice and informative CSR named Lorie (see
there are good ones out there). Unless
I can get the houses in my name she can’t change the policy over to my name or
make any real changes (she was able to change the mailing address to mine that’s
a plus!). The policies are active and “sort-of”
current so I’m not in danger of defaulting on those – yet. On 9/7 I need to pay $88.50 on the rental
(with the total due by 11/1 of $169.01 that I can pay off at any time) and
$169.84 on the one he was living in (with total due by 10.17 of $499.52 that I
can pay off at any time). Happy Happy
Joy Joy…
Finally got in touch with Javier; from Norfolk Circuit Court. I’ve made an appointment for Probate Court
for 9 am Monday 8/26. I need to bring
the original will, a death certificate (only the second ‘real’ one I’ve had to
use) and a method of payment. Since I
can’t do ANYTHING until this is done I need to get the funds together and the
ball rolling.
… and if you’ll indulge me a bit of… well just keep
reading. The other day I was asked on my
blog why I keep posting about all of this and in such detail. At first I was taken aback by the question (after
all it’s not like I’m forcing anyone to read, right?) but after a minute or two
I decided to answer the question. In a
nutshell… 1. Because I’ve always been a journaler of sorts. It’s how I work
things out, it’s how I try to make permanent things I don’t want to forget (or
in some cases make sure they really did happen the way I felt they did J ), and in a way I
guess it’s one way to leave proof that I was here. 2. And the biggest reason has to be so that
someone – anyone can learn from my experience.
I keep saying someone needs to write a book on what you’re supposed to
do when the last parent dies, but frankly you wouldn’t have time to read
it. There are so many things that didn’t
happen when Mom died since dad was still alive that just automatically
transferred to him. Dad, no matter what
else you think of my account of our relationship, was a very proud man. For him to allow me to help him these last 7
years or so with all of his health issues was a HUGE concession especially
considering our relationship for most of my life. But because he was so proud, and because he
felt it was his duty as a man to take care of his children (and not the other
way around) there were things that I didn’t know and/or couldn’t convince him
was not only in his best interests but mine.
There are also a ton of things we didn’t know or even consider finding
out about. If I can help someone else
navigate these waters, get their plans in place, look at what they want for
their parents and/or kids then blurting out my private information for the
world to see is just my way of giving back.
It’s my way of saying how much I appreciate those that have been helping
me through all of this muck.
Thanks for reading.
Now go start working on your “this is what I want to happen if something
happens to me” notebook. J
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